Challis,
My daughter took me to my first appt with the Oncologist, so she heard it for the first time, with me, from the doctor. My kids had to know. I called my fiancé as soon as we left the building. Then, I told my 5 siblings by phone. Then, my daughter sent a group email to extended family and good friends. She sent updates to the group throughout my first years' journey. I ended up with a very large, and loving support group. I didn't want to go it alone. But that's just me. I wish you the best, whatever your decision may be. Do what feels right for you.

Hmmm ... I see your dilemma. My situation was very different. I was very advanced in my CLL when diagnosed. I had already outlived my family. I was supposed to die within a month or two. So I called up all my friends and gave everything I owned away except for my TV, computer, car, cat, and mattress I slept on. The mattress was on the floor by the way. Then life played it's funny little trick. I lived. ROFL! I started going to thrift stores to regroup. 😊 I was happy that I'd given to everyone the things I wanted them to have. But I was straightforward about the cancer. That's been years ago now, and I'm currently in remission. With a house full of thrift store artifacts. 😂

I was transparent with everyone in my family, I also gave them the truth exactly what I knew about CLL and encouraged them if they wanted to seek their own information. I tried not to be over dramatic about the "C" word. Assure them it's not the end it is slow growing, and there are lots of treatment options. Hope that helps.

I was diagnosed in Sept 2023. I came right out and told family but buffered it with the fact CLL is generally slow growing. I have told friends, neighbors, people in our church. For me I find it comforting having a large support group.

I just came right out and told them, I was more worried about my kids since They have already lost their Mother in 2020, But They are ok since I told them I am ok